A research team from Cardiff University are are looking for people who have either not been able to have as many children as they would have liked, or who have not been able to have children at all, to take part in a survey about adjusting to this. They hope that the findings can be used to help with support for those who have not been able to have the family they had envisaged.
This study has ethical approval from the Ethics Committee of the School of Psychology at Cardiff University. It takes 25 minutes to complete the survey, and if you want to enter your email address at the end you can be put into a draw to win one of four £50 vouchers. Here’s a link to the survey if you are interested https://cardiffunipsych.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_73WpnrBsh3laWVf
I was reading this morning about a new survey – rather bizarrely commissioned by an e-cigarette company – which looked at the habits men and women found most annoying. I was quite surprised to discover that for women, the second most annoying behaviour (and something which was considered “socially unacceptable”) was asking questions about when they were going to start a family. Almost 70% of women found it annoying, and only spitting in public was more irritating. Things like playing music too loudly on headphones, sniffing, chewing gum or eating smelly food in the office came way lower down the scale.
Interestingly, more than 50% of men were annoyed by questions about when they were going to start a family too – although they found sniffing, being asked how much they earn and being bumped into by someone on their mobile phone more annoying!
I know it’s easy to assume intrusive questions about when you’re planning to have children are upsetting because you’re trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant – but this survey suggests that questions about this are annoying to everyone, regardless of their fertility. So, next time someone asks you, you don’t need to feel you’re being prickly or rude if you don’t want to answer – remember, the majority would agree that it’s not a question people ought to be asking!