If you are in or near London, you may be interested in a talk on nutrition at the Infertility Network UK Central London group on July 7 at 6pm. This will be specifically focused on healthy eating and diet for fertility. The evening is open to everyone and is completely free of charge as are all Infertility Network UK groups.
There will be time to listen, to ask any questions you may have about healthy eating and diet, and then to get together with others who are experiencing fertility problems.
If you’d like to attend, email firstname.lastname@example.org who will send you more details.
If you are from a South Asian background and experiencing difficulties getting pregnant, there’s a group in London just for you. A new Infertility Network UK group is being set up in London for Asian women. It will be a friendly and informal group, which will be open to all. For more information please contact Anita at email@example.com
One of the things I do in my role as London Representative for Infertility Network UK is to organise get-togethers for patients at our London support group. Last night, we invited Lesley Pyne to come along to talk about coping strategies which was one of our most popular evenings to date.
Lesley taught us some techniques to help deal with difficult situations and there was a lively discussion with members of the group who had lots of questions about coping. Lesley explained how she had got through her own decision to give up fertility treatment and talked about the need to look after yourself, to allow yourself time to grieve and to seek help when you are finding things difficult.
You can find Lesley’s website, full of helpful advice, here and if you would like professional help from a counsellor, you can find a list of specialist fertility counsellors on the British Infertility Counselling Association website here.
We had a really interesting evening at the Central London fertility group last night with a great speaker, Pippa from First 4 Adoption. I’d been unsure about suggesting adoption as a topic as I know how fed up anyone trying to conceive gets with being asked why they don’t “just adopt”, but when I mooted the idea I got a really positive response.
We had a good turn out and the group had lots of questions for Pippa after her talk. She explained the basics about finding an adoption agency and registering, and discussed the children who are in need of adoptive families and how they are matched with parents. She was so warm and positive, and I think we all learnt a lot during the course of the evening.
If you are thinking of adoption as an option, or as a Plan B, C or even D, then you should check out the First 4 Adoption website which is full of useful advice and information.
Over the past few weeks, I’ve facilitated a couple of the many dozens of get-togethers that the charity Infertility Network UK runs across the country for couples with fertility problems. Watching the way that people respond to one another in the groups, and the huge relief that they feel discovering others who genuinely understand and feel exactly the same way makes it a hugely worthwhile and rewarding process – but it always makes me feel sad that so few people are reaping the benefits.
The most people we’ve ever had to one of our London support groups is around 25, and yet we know that one in seven of the population will have difficulty conceiving – and so there are many thousands of people in the capital alone who could be helped by coming along to a group. I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea – and I’d never have thought it was mine – but even those who start out sceptical often find that there’s a great deal to be gained from a face-to-face meeting with others.
If you’re feeling a bit isolated, do think about the idea of meeting up with others. I know it can be daunting to come along for the first time, but meetings aren’t miserable occasions, they aren’t formal or alarming – it’s just a chance to get together with others who know exactly how it feels, and there’s nothing to be lost by giving it a try.
Don’t forget, Infertility Network UK also runs groups right across the UK from Scotland and Northern Ireland to the Channel Isles – you can check out your local groups on the Infertility Network UK website.
The London Fertility Centre will be launching their Fertility Circle on November 14 – a group which is open to everyone, not just those having treatment at the centre.
And finally, a new group will be starting on November 20 at St George’s Campden Hill in Kensington. The St George’s West London Group is based in the church, but is a secular group open to all with an optional meditation and prayer session before the group begins.