Want to know more about reflexology?

If you are in or near London, and are interested in knowing more about reflexology, you may want to go along to the Central London group run by Infertility Network UK this Thursday where there will be a reflexologist, Lyn Franklin, at hand to give a brief talk and to answer any questions that you may have.

As with any complementary therapy, reflexology should never replace proper medical care when it comes to fertility – but many patients do find it very relaxing and if it can help you to feel better during your fertility tests and treatment, that can only be beneficial.

If you’d like to go along to the group, you can find out more on the Infertility Network UK website here. The meeting is free and is a great opportunity to get together with others who are experiencing fertility problems.

Come and hear Lesley Pyne!

We’re delighted that Lesley Pyne is coming along to the next Central London get together for Infertility Network UK on the evening of April 7th. Lesley, who works with women who are experiencing involuntary childlessness, will be sharing some of her advice and tips for coping and it promises to be a really helpful session.

These sessions are open to everyone and are completely free of charge, so if you’d like to come and join us, just email Kate at katebrian@infertilitynetworkuk.com for more details. You can find Lesley’s website at www.lesleypyne.co.uk

Managing Mother’s Day

Carl_Strathmann_-_Bunch_of_Wild_Flowers_(13354976844)It’s one of the most difficult times of the year for anyone trying to conceive, and it’s here again. A day focused on celebrating motherhood is bound to be challenging for anyone who is longing for a family, but the time leading up to it can be the hardest part to deal with. It’s virtually impossible to escape Mother’s Day when every local shop has jumped on the commercial bandwagon and even the local supermarket seems to have decided to label anything you might possibly give to anyone else as a “Mother’s Day Gift”.

Mother’s Day can act as a horrible reinforcement of the sense of isolation and loneliness that you may feel as more and more of those around you seem to be pregnant or new parents. It can make you feel like an outsider whose life has become completely cut off form those around you.


If you know anyone else who is experiencing difficulties getting pregnant or who doesn’t have children, this can be the ideal time for meeting up with them. Getting together for a day out, a trip to the cinema or theatre or sharing a meal can be a good way of reminding yourself that you are not alone. This Thursday evening, March 3, there’s a get together for anyone experiencing fertility problems in Central London and if you’d like to come along and join us you’d be very welcome (for details, email katebrian@infertilitynetworkuk.com).  On Sunday March 6 itself, you may be interested to know that Gateway Women’s Jody Day will be giving a live talk on BBC Radio’s Mother’s Day Service – you can find details here 


However you decide to spend Sunday, remember that you are not alone. There are around 3.5 million people in the UK alone who are going through difficulties at any given time, and every one of them will be experiencing very similar feelings about Mother’s Day.






Adoption_2-1We had a really interesting evening at the Central London fertility group last night with a great speaker, Pippa from First 4 Adoption. I’d been unsure about suggesting adoption as a topic as I know how fed up anyone trying to conceive gets with being asked why they don’t “just adopt”, but when I mooted the idea I got a really positive response.

We had a good turn out and the group had lots of questions for Pippa after her talk. She explained the basics about finding an adoption agency and registering, and discussed the children who are in need of adoptive families and how they are matched with parents. She was so warm and positive, and I think we all learnt a lot during the course of the evening.

If you are thinking of adoption as an option, or as a Plan B, C or even D, then you should check out the First 4 Adoption website which is full of useful advice and information.

Why don’t you go to fertility groups?

images-2Over the past few weeks, I’ve facilitated a couple of the many dozens of get-togethers that the charity Infertility Network UK runs across the country for couples with fertility problems. Watching the way that people respond to one another in the groups, and the huge relief that they feel discovering others who genuinely understand and feel exactly the same way makes it a hugely worthwhile and rewarding process – but it always makes me feel sad that so few people are reaping the benefits.

The most people we’ve ever had to one of our London support groups is around 25, and yet we know that one in seven of the population will have difficulty conceiving – and so there are many thousands of people in the capital alone who could be helped by coming along to a group.  I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea – and I’d never have thought it was mine – but even those who start out sceptical often find that there’s a great deal to be gained from a face-to-face meeting with others.

If you’re feeling a bit isolated, do think about the idea of meeting up with others. I know it can be daunting to come along for the first time, but meetings aren’t miserable occasions, they aren’t formal or alarming – it’s just a chance to get together with others who know exactly how it feels, and there’s nothing to be lost by giving it a try.