At the recent Infertility Network UK information day in Cardiff, fertility author Jessica Hepburn gave an excellent talk about her experiences and suggested some tips for getting through fertility treatment. One of the things she mentioned was the way that we often lose confidence in ourselves when we are at the fertility clinic, worrying about being annoying and wanting staff to like us as if this might have an impact on the outcome of our treatment. I’ve spoken to a number of people talk about this recently, and sometimes usually confident people find themselves becoming oddly meek when they’re facing a fertility specialist. People do leave the clinic without really understanding things, or don’t want to make a fuss even when there are clearly issues which need to be addressed.
Even today, there’s still a lingering stigma about fertility problems that can carry an element of shame and embarrassment – and it can be difficult to feel confident in the clinic when you may feel constantly close to tears. It is important to remember that it’s fine to ask questions or to say if there’s something you don’t understand or which is worrying you. There’s nothing worse than walking out of an often long-awaited appointment feeling that you aren’t quite sure what is happening next or why a certain path is being recommended.
If you are worried about anything, don’t forget that Infertility Network UK has a trained nurse who you can call completely free of charge and who can point you in the right direction offering support and advice – but when you are at the clinic, remember that asking questions and understanding is key to taking back some control.