All too often, there’s an assumption that secondary infertility is somehow less of a problem because you aren’t childless – and yet in fact the pain it causes may be different, but it is still a deeply distressing problem. Parents can feel guilty about not being able to provide a sibling for their child, and it can be very difficult to escape pregnant women and babies when you have a young child.
People sometimes put off seeking medical advice if they are experiencing secondary infertility having conceived without a problem in the past. In fact, there are no guarantees when it comes to fertility and it is actually more common to have a problem second time around than it is not to be able to have a child in the first place. Sometimes the difficulties you are experiencing are just down to the fact that you are older than you were when you got pregnant before, but there can be other medical problems which may have occurred in the interim. If it is taking you longer than you would have liked to get pregnant again, you should visit your GP in just the same way that you would do for primary infertility – so usually after a year of trying unsuccessfully or after 6 months if you are over 35.
One aspect of fertility problems which often gets overlooked is secondary infertility – that is when those who have already conceived successfully in the past either through treatment or naturally have problems getting pregnant again.
People experiencing secondary infertility often feel very guilty about the upset and hurt they go through when they can’t conceive as they are aware how fortunate they are to have a child – but secondary infertility brings very different challenges of its own. Fertility Network UK has a get-together for those experiencing secondary infertility in London on Saturday November 12th at 10.30am which is open to anyone who would like to attend. If you would like to go along, you can email the organiser at firstname.lastname@example.org who will be able to give you the details of where to meet.
It’s a great opportunity to meet up with others who are experiencing similar difficulties and it can be surprisingly helpful just to be able to talk openly about this – so do go along if you can!
Secondary infertility – which happens when you are having trouble conceiving after getting pregnant before either naturally or with treatment – is something that is often overlooked. There is often an assumption that you must be able to get pregnant again if you’ve done so in the past – and that once you have a child, you ought to be satisfied with that anyway.
The topic has been covered in the press today, which reminded me that Fertility Network UK do have a special group for parents who are experiencing fertility problems. It can be incredibly helpful to get together with others who are going through similar things, and if you’d like to join the group you can contact the group by emailing email@example.com
Having fertility problems when you are already a parent can be isolating as you may not feel able to access the existing support services for people who are trying to have their first child. Infertility Network UK is organising a get-together for parents who are experiencing problems getting pregnant in London next week. It’s an informal, friendly group and all are welcome – whether you got pregnant naturally or with treatment first time around.
For details, contact Kate – firstname.lastname@example.org
Whether you’ve had a child after fertility treatment and are trying again, or conceived naturally first time around and are experiencing secondary infertility, you may feel that people don’t understand how it can feel.
For some time, I ran a support group in London for Infertility Network UK for parents who were trying to conceive again – now we’re taking the group online so that others from the rest of the UK can benefit from talking to others and sharing experiences. If you are interested in joining a virtual get-together of parents who are trying to conceive, email email@example.com for details.
If you’re a parent who is experiencing problems having another child, there’s a get-together this coming Monday at lunchtime in Central London.
It’s a great way to get in touch with other parents who are having fertility problems – you can email either firstname.lastname@example.org or email@example.com for details of Monday’s meeting.
New research from Cardiff University published in Human Reproduction this week has found that the unfulfilled desire for a child affects women’s mental health, regardless of whether they’re parents trying for another child or childless women. Secondary infertility can be particularly hard to deal with as there’s not much sympathy for those who are already parents and are trying unsuccessfully to conceive again – but there can be all kinds of specific difficulties in coping with secondary infertility which are often overlooked.
Infertility Network UK runs a special group for those who are parents who are trying to conceive again. It’s an informal get-together and a great opportunity to meet others who are going through the same thing and to share thoughts and experiences. The next meeting is in Central London on September 30 and you can find details here.
If you’re having problems getting pregnant and are already a parent, there’s a regular group in Central London for women in a similar position. Our next meeting is on Monday 9 December when we’ll be getting together for a drink and a chat. It’s a very friendly group and all are welcome – if you’d like to join us, email firstname.lastname@example.org for details.
The London Fertility Centre will be launching their Fertility Circle on November 14 – a group which is open to everyone, not just those having treatment at the centre.
And finally, a new group will be starting on November 20 at St George’s Campden Hill in Kensington. The St George’s West London Group is based in the church, but is a secular group open to all with an optional meditation and prayer session before the group begins.
We are planning to set a date in the next few weeks for the first meeting of the secondary infertility support group in London. If you are trying unsuccessfully to conceive but you’ve already had a child either with or without treatment, you are more than welcome to come and join us. It will be an early evening meeting in London. For details email email@example.com