One aspect of fertility problems which often gets overlooked is secondary infertility – that is when those who have already conceived successfully in the past either through treatment or naturally have problems getting pregnant again.
People experiencing secondary infertility often feel very guilty about the upset and hurt they go through when they can’t conceive as they are aware how fortunate they are to have a child – but secondary infertility brings very different challenges of its own. Fertility Network UK has a get-together for those experiencing secondary infertility in London on Saturday November 12th at 10.30am which is open to anyone who would like to attend. If you would like to go along, you can email the organiser at firstname.lastname@example.org who will be able to give you the details of where to meet.
It’s a great opportunity to meet up with others who are experiencing similar difficulties and it can be surprisingly helpful just to be able to talk openly about this – so do go along if you can!
Having fertility problems when you are already a parent can be isolating as you may not feel able to access the existing support services for people who are trying to have their first child. Infertility Network UK is organising a get-together for parents who are experiencing problems getting pregnant in London next week. It’s an informal, friendly group and all are welcome – whether you got pregnant naturally or with treatment first time around.
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Whether you’ve had a child after fertility treatment and are trying again, or conceived naturally first time around and are experiencing secondary infertility, you may feel that people don’t understand how it can feel.
For some time, I ran a support group in London for Infertility Network UK for parents who were trying to conceive again – now we’re taking the group online so that others from the rest of the UK can benefit from talking to others and sharing experiences. If you are interested in joining a virtual get-together of parents who are trying to conceive, email firstname.lastname@example.org for details.
If you’re a parent who is experiencing problems having another child, there’s a get-together this coming Monday at lunchtime in Central London.
It’s a great way to get in touch with other parents who are having fertility problems – you can email either email@example.com or firstname.lastname@example.org for details of Monday’s meeting.
New research from Cardiff University published in Human Reproduction this week has found that the unfulfilled desire for a child affects women’s mental health, regardless of whether they’re parents trying for another child or childless women. Secondary infertility can be particularly hard to deal with as there’s not much sympathy for those who are already parents and are trying unsuccessfully to conceive again – but there can be all kinds of specific difficulties in coping with secondary infertility which are often overlooked.
Infertility Network UK runs a special group for those who are parents who are trying to conceive again. It’s an informal get-together and a great opportunity to meet others who are going through the same thing and to share thoughts and experiences. The next meeting is in Central London on September 30 and you can find details here.
If you’re having problems getting pregnant and are already a parent, there’s a regular group in Central London for women in a similar position. Our next meeting is on Monday 9 December when we’ll be getting together for a drink and a chat. It’s a very friendly group and all are welcome – if you’d like to join us, email email@example.com for details.
Some of the groups I’ve been to in the past have been hugely successful – others have been quieter – and they do seem to go in peaks and troughs. It made me think about the whole idea of support groups, and whether it’s the name that puts some people off? Would you be more likely to go along to something that was a talk on a specific fertility-related topic with the opportunity to chat to others at the same time? Or would a more casual coffee morning type event be more attractive than an actual group?
I think sometimes people imagine support groups being slightly alarming – but in fact they are quite laid back affairs where people have an opportunity to get together with others who are going through similar experiences and to talk about how they’ve been getting on. It’s not the same as talking to friends or family because these are other people who genuinely understand where you’re coming from because they’re in exactly the same place.
I’d be interested in your thoughts though – would you be more willing to go to something that wasn’t called a “support group”? And if so, what sort of event would interest you?
The London Fertility Centre will be launching their Fertility Circle on November 14 – a group which is open to everyone, not just those having treatment at the centre.
And finally, a new group will be starting on November 20 at St George’s Campden Hill in Kensington. The St George’s West London Group is based in the church, but is a secular group open to all with an optional meditation and prayer session before the group begins.