One aspect of fertility problems which often gets overlooked is secondary infertility – that is when those who have already conceived successfully in the past either through treatment or naturally have problems getting pregnant again.
People experiencing secondary infertility often feel very guilty about the upset and hurt they go through when they can’t conceive as they are aware how fortunate they are to have a child – but secondary infertility brings very different challenges of its own. Fertility Network UK has a get-together for those experiencing secondary infertility in London on Saturday November 12th at 10.30am which is open to anyone who would like to attend. If you would like to go along, you can email the organiser at firstname.lastname@example.org who will be able to give you the details of where to meet.
It’s a great opportunity to meet up with others who are experiencing similar difficulties and it can be surprisingly helpful just to be able to talk openly about this – so do go along if you can!
When you’ve already got a child – or more than one child – and are trying unsuccessfully to have another, you may feel that you don’t really have a right to find it tough when you know that so many people would long for what you have. Secondary infertility – that’s infertility for anyone who has been pregnant before – is not always understood, and people can find it hard to get support when they are trying to have another child as going along to a fertility support group may not feel appropriate.
I think there are some aspects of secondary infertility that can make it particularly difficult to cope with. First, you know exactly what you are missing out on by not being able to have another child. Also, as a parent it is impossible to avoid spending time with other parents and their children, and babies and pregnant women go with the territory which can also make it very tough.
There’s much to be gained from getting together with others who are going through similar experiences, so I’m setting up an Infertility Network UK support group in London for those with secondary infertility – do get in touch through my contact page if you’d like to know more or might want to come along.