Here’s an article from the Huffington Post by Shafali Talisa Arya that you may want to share with friends and family who don’t know quite how to deal with your fertility problems… It’s a list of some things not to say and covers many that you will most certainly have seen before – the relax and stop thinking about it one, and the why don’t you just adopt, it could be worse and the people who seem to think it is helpful to tell you how very fertile they are…
I wish it talked about fertility problems rather than infertility (most of us are really sub-fertile rather than infertile) but I hope it makes people think a little more about some of the potentially hurtful things they say. Of course, it’s always difficult to get it right and no one can always hit the correct tone with someone else when they are in the midst of a challenging situation – but I love the closing thought that people with fertility problems don’t need advice, they need support… So true!
It’s always a slightly controversial subject, but I’ve had a couple of online pieces published today about the need for more education about fertility after an Infertility Network UK survey of more than 300 young people found that most of them didn’t feel they knew enough about the biological clock. You can find the piece for the Huffington Post here – http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/kate-brian/young-people-want-more-fe_b_9399942.html and the piece in Standard Issue magazine here – http://standardissuemagazine.com/health/educating-fertile-minds-about-fertility/
Have a read and let me know what you think about more fertility education for young people…
When the Huffington Post put an informal survey on their Lifestyle Facebook page asking young women about their greatest health fears, a major concern for women in their twenties worried about was infertility. Apparently this was the “most common health fear” for women in this age group, which perhaps suggests that the messages about the dangers of assuming that you can leave it until later to decide to get pregnant are getting through to a younger generation.
I was actually quite surprised that so many younger women put this as their major health concern, but what is vitally important is that they also understand the limitations of fertility treatment and don’t rely on it as a panacea for the biological clock.
You can read more about the survey – and some advice for younger women on the factors which can put future fertility at risk – here