When I got my copy of Letters to my Donor from the National Gamete Donation Trust, I was about to leave the house to go to a meeting – so I put it in my bag to read on the tube. It’s a compilation of letters from parents of donor-conceived children to the donors who helped them to have their children. Most have never met the people whose generosity enabled them to conceive, and I was only a couple of letters in when I found myself sitting in a crowded tube train with tears streaming down my cheeks and getting some slightly odd looks from other passengers.
It’s an incredibly moving book – for the parents, the opportunity to thank someone for a gift which has transformed their lives is overwhelming and many begin by noting that words can’t begin to explain how grateful they are for the chance to have a family. There are letters from people who’ve used egg donors, sperm donors and one from a couple who used a surrogate. The letters show the delight that the parents take in their children and the happiness that the donor has brought into their lives.
There are also a few letters from donors themselves, explaining why they donated which may be an inspiration to anyone considering donating.
Of course this book will be of great interest to anyone who has some experience of donor conception, but I think it’s something anyone can learn from and gives a unique insight into the immense joy that a donor can bring to someone else’s life.
You can buy Letters to my Donor via the Gamete Donation Trust website at www.ngdt.co.uk where you will also find lots of useful information about gamete donation – but as I said, maybe not a book to read on the train…